Attentive, Passionate and Holistic Care
The Cabbage Patch Myth & Symbolism
Why the cabbage patch? Well, for centuries in Europe and North America people have used the little white lie that babies come from the cabbage patch, in order to avoid explaining the intricacies of conception and birth to curious children. In the story, a gardener tends to the cabbage babies as they grow and then delivers them to expectant parents. Here at The Cabbage Patch we are all about nurture and supporting growth in a healthy and wholesome way.
Also, living in rural fenland means that cabbages are everywhere!
Why might you choose a doula?
Here are some of the reasons why I might be the right fit for you...
Antenatal
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You may feel anxious as this is your first time and need some love and support
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You may have had a negative experience first time and now want to be supported to have an optimal experience
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You may need a mother/sister figure in your life
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Your partner may be absent or away a lot and so you want a supporter who will always be there
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Your partner may be especially anxious, and the doula is there to support him/her to support you
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You may wish to share your antenatal journey with someone who listens to you
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You may be new to the system or country and need a guide
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You may be experiencing very difficult circumstances and need a calm influence
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You want to develop a special relationship with someone who will be a constant in your perinatal journey
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It would be good to have someone else around, you live a long way from your support network.
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And well...because it just feels right, to be enveloped with love and care and to have practical, emotional and informational support right when you need it the most!
Birth
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You want a particular style of birth
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You want someone at the birth who KNOWS you
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You want someone at the birth who knows when you need a cup of tea, snack, hot water bottle, etc
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You would like someone to support your partner so that you don't have to worry about him/her
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You are choosing to birth at home and want to be surrounded by familiar and loving faces
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You need someone to care for older children
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You want a natural twin birth, VBAC, HBAC and so on
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You are hoping to avoid trauma this time around
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For religious/cultural reasons
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Because your friend had a doula
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This birth is particularly special after a loss
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You may need enhanced emotional support
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You want to feel held
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A practical and calm extra pair of hands at a homebirth
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Because you want to have a choice and someone who helps you make informed decisions - even in the heat of the moment
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Rebozo, massage and hands-on support is very welcome.
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And well...because it just feels right, to be enveloped with love and care and to have practical, emotional and informational support right when you need it the most!
Postnatal
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You want to get more sleep
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What do you even do with a baby when it arrives?
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You would like help with light housework/meal prep
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You would like someone to care for you and your needs
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You have suffered with postnatal depression before and so want someone to support you this time around
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You would like to breastfeed but not sure where to start
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You feel daunted at being left alone with a baby
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Your partner works away a lot
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You worry about the dog getting walked, etc
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You need someone to listen, drink tea with, share your story, laugh with
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How will you ever do the school/nursery run?
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Because you are having multiples and only have two hands
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Practical help after a caesarean
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There are some stresses in the household (e.g. financial, bereavement, relationships)
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Because the transition to becoming a parent was not what was expected.
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And well...because it just feels right, to be enveloped with love and care and to have practical, emotional and informational support right when you need it the most!